Published on by Irina
Most of us end up sharing a house or flat at some point in our lives, and what an adventure that can be! When you decide to settle somewhere new for studies, for work or simply just for changing the landscape this is a great way to save money on accommodation and to meet new people. Often the people you live with end up being your friends for life but, unfortunately, sometimes they can become your worst enemies.
In order to avoid unpleasant surprises related to living with other people, it is very important to do everything possible to make a good choice for your future flatmates and to get along with them. After a hard day at work or at the university you want to be able to relax at home, not to spend time on inventing desperate plans on how to get rid of your flatmates ;-)
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Because we want to make sure that you will have nice flatshare experiences, we have also prepared the below list with a few advises on how to build good relationships with your flatmates:
1. Communicate well
We all know that communication is the key element in any successful relationship! That’s why you always need to make sure that everybody’s opinion is heard and that everyone feels understood. Even when you have to make a simple request, be mindful of how it could be interpreted by the rest of the group and make extra efforts to explain it properly. We assure you that this is the best way to avoid any unnecessary disputes and the inherent headaches.
2. Learn the house rules
Every home has its own functioning rules, written or not. When visiting places that have the potential of becoming your future home you should always ask about the house rules so that you know what you are in for. When joining a houseshare you should agree to respect the established rules so that you can get along easily with everybody. If you feel the need to set a new rule for your own sake, make sure to approach it in a diplomatic way so nobody gets offended.
3. Explain what are your boundaries
It is important to respect your housemates, but remember that the key for a nice long-lasting relationship with them it is also for them to respect you. Every person is different and explaining your boundaries early in the game is crucial. Don’t be aggressive when sharing them with the people you live with but calmly explain if, for example, you are antisocial in the morning and that it is best to talk to you only after you have had your coffee and a shower.
4. Do things together
We learned, from our past experiences, that the best way to create a nice atmosphere in a collocation and to build long-lasting friendships with your flatmates is to share experiences with them. It is nice to do, from time to time, at least simple things like: going to the theater, planning a hike, or watching a movie together at home.
5. Always do your part of the home chores
House chores have to be shared amongst flatmates to ensure that life in the house will always run smoothly. Also, it would be super cool to offer a hand when seeing one of your flatmates working hard to keep the place clean. This could be another opportunity to spend time together and to get to know each other better!
6. Make compromises
Sharing your home with other people means that, from time to time, you will inevitably step onto each others toes. It is normal, but you have to learn fast that if you want to have a smooth flatshare experience then you have to compromise on certain things. We know it might be sometimes tough, but take it this way: a collocation experience will teach you many great life lessons that will come handy later on in life and in other relationships.
7. Keep others needs in mind
Leaving aside the personality differences, you are likely to have also a different schedule than your flatmates. Remember that when you come back home at 4 in the morning, drunk and in the mood to continue the party! Your housemates might have to study for an exam or work early in the morning and you will for sure ruin their day. Avoid late night cooking, starting the washing machine or rehearsing for your next concert. That is called respect! If you respect the ones around you then for sure you will make it more difficult for the others to disrespect you!
8. Give priority to your personal hygiene
Nobody likes a stinky flatmate, right? Take regular showers, put your smelly shoes out on the balcony, do regular laundries and wash your dirty dishes. We imagine that your flatmates didn’t sign up to live with a skunk, right?! They for sure hoped to share a slice of their life with a cool, awesome person. Therefore do every effort to not make them change their opinion and to regret that decision!
9. Always keep track of what’s yours
How delicious this piece of lasagna in the oven and how refreshing this bottle of beer in the fridge must be! You would jump on them right in this moment! Well, for sure your flatmate, who bought the beer and prepared the food, is probably looking forward to have them when coming back from work. Therefore never take what does not belong to you, unless it is a matter of life and death and only if you will replace them as soon as possible. Often each flatmate cooks for themselves so you should do your own shopping and keep track of what you have so that you can replenish whenever it is needed. Ask if sometimes you need to use some ingredients from your flatmates, but don’t do it too often because for sure it will become annoying.
10. Don’t have too many guests
Usually a shared flat is already a full house, so you’d better remember that when bringing friends or family over. In some places, everybody is OK with you bringing whomever you want at any time. But in most cases, it can get very frustrating for your housemates to have to share their space with more people than they signed up for on a regular basis.
11. Take your time when choosing your flatmates
Finally, the most important rule when moving into a collocation: take your time in choosing your flatmates! When picking up a future homeshare you should try to understand, as much as possible, if you will get along with the people living already in that place. This will make your stay a peaceful one and often most probably you will have the chance to build lifelong friendships.
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